Here is an amazing and funny story: the other day my friend called me to tell me he had been hurt in a little accident. At the same time I was feeling sorry for myself about something. He says: "I need 10 prayers." Wrapped in my selfishness, I said "No one prays for me!' He says "It's not about you, it's about me." That was the paradigm shift. Love is giving, not to get something out of it. Love is a gift, not a trade. I pray that we remember that.